Paula Heller Garland

“I don't know the perfect thing to say when a person is hurting but I do know the last thing they want to hear are reasons they shouldn't be hurting.”

“Hurting the person who hurt you won't heal your pain. Let them go. Karma will deal with them you don't have to write the script for the universe.”

“All of the years I spent trying to be someone you could be proud of would have been better spent being proud of myself for who I already was.”

“Late that night we were both still thinking about the events as they unfolded. He suggested a drive back to the water to bring some closure. As we stood in the water I felt so thankful to have been with a friend capable of hearing and expressing emotion.”

“You can't sweep something broken into a bag and call it whole. It takes repair.”

“I may not always like at times, but life is a beautiful blend of joy, tragedy and dreams. If not for one, I could not have the other.”

“As I was standing in my kitchen cooking yesterday, a quiet task that causes my mind to begin reminiscing (similar to washing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms and mowing), I reached for the kitchen scissors and off I went. Kitchen scissors. Who knew there were special scissors to cut food items? Mom did.”

“I call my it "the Book of Paula" or BoP for short. Those are my own opinions, based on experience.”

“I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief I was not enough? Did I think I needed to suffer? Did I think I could save him? Why not save myself instead? What a miserable realization that I knew all of this yet failed to take action.”

“Don't forget to pause and nourish yourself a bit along the way. When you're born to help others sometimes you forget to help yourself.”

“And my heart is breakingMy heart is lying on the floor in a pool of tearsI keep asking the same questions only to have them unanswered”

“Life became more aligned when I started taking some of the advice I'd been dishing out to my friends.”